There are moments in life that will change everything about our future. At the time, they only seem ordinary. But the hands of time are forever altered. We all have specific days that are etched in our memories. What we wore that day, the faces that we will never forget, the details that didn't seem like such a big deal in the moment, but you can pinpoint as you reminisce. For me, most of the days I remember in that kind of depth, are full of heart break and agony. The day I last remember my parents living under the same roof and hugging my dad goodbye as he left with his clothes still on hangers as he carried them out. The day I split my forehead open and needed 10 stitches. The day that our country was forever changed and 9-11 took a whole new meaning, as I sat in my english classroom watching the news updates on the tv in the upper corner near the chalkboard. The day that I found out my then husband was using heroin and everything I thought was good, was a lie. The day my son took his very last breath in my arms and I screamed for it not to be true.
But there are also moments that changed my life for the good. The day that each of my precious babies were born. The day I opened my results of my NREMT and passed! As all of those days fast forward through my memories and thoughts, there is another day that brings a smile to my face every time I think of it and the moments that keep resulting from that day. I was training at dispatch and it was my night to do a ride along with a county officer. I arrived 10 minutes early and was led to the briefing room beforehand. I felt awkward and out of place but found an empty seat and tried to go as unnoticed as possible. Soon, officers started coming in and finding seats as well. I was introduced to the officer I would be riding with and soon after, another man came in quietly and sat at the end of the table, to my left. His last name embroidered on his chest, stood out. Carter. He had a styrofoam cup of coffee in his hand and didn't say much. But I noticed him. I remember the officer to my right spilling his cup of coffee and the others cracking jokes as they discussed any issues for the night. I proceeded through the night doing my ride along and going about life. A few months later, I got a friend request on Facebook from a name that took my breath away, Kirk Carter. So close to my son's name, Carter Erick. I had to look twice to make sure I was seeing it right. When I took a look at his profile and realized he was the officer to my left, I decided to accept it. Thankfully, he reached out from time to time and would ask me how I was doing. It took a little time before we started talking more and more and he eventually asked if we could text since it would be easier. The changes to come from this, is profound. This man came into my life quietly but full of everything I needed. From that first night when I was finally brave enough to go hang out with him and realized that sitting with him and doing nothing but talking, was everything right. There was something in his eyes and in that smile, every time I seen them, that held me. There have been so many times in the 14 months we have been dating that life has been off balance but he remains calm and collected as he tells me it's okay. He is the constant in my life that I was missing for so long. I walked away from dispatch after 11 weeks of training, which was one of the hardest decisions I have had to make. It just wasn't for me, even though emergency services is my calling in life. But what I found while there, was why it was meant to be. I don't know what the future has in store but I know right now, life just feels right. That man is everything that both myself and the girls need. He is patient, gentle, kind, fun and wonderful.
It's nice to be able to share how good life is for us right now!